to develop and nurturing the successful relationship

Making a relationship work smoothly is not always easy but it is not impossible. The problem usually arises when one takes the other for granted or have too many expectations. The following 25 tips are guidelines to help you delve into your own relationship and look at the possibilities of improvement.

1) Take time out to spend it in a meaningful way with your partner. Quality time is essential to rekindle your love and romance away from kids, family and friends.

2) Relationship needs security and warmth. This is only possible when each person understands the other and is willing to bend a little to accommodate their needs.

3) Love each other dearly but learn to give each other space.

4) Men are rarely able to express themselves as women do. They need more time alone to sort out their thoughts before expressing them. Understanding their needs helps to maintain harmony and respect.

5) Learn to appreciate and compliment one another.

6) Express the way you want him to arouse you. This helps him to understand your needs for intimacy.

7) Learn to be genuine in a relationship. This helps to sort out indifferences and misunderstandings.

8) Love one another with all their good traits as well as bad ones.

9) Be clear in your dealings with your better half. Avoid being resentful. If you had an argument, make up and avoid carrying the ill-feelings forward.

10) It is not a good idea to give your partner a hard time. It will instead make him more obstinate. The best way to accept his good qualities and ignore the ones you dislike.

11) Financial matters are usually the cause of conflicts. Learn to work on a budget and manage your investments jointly.12) Divide your domestic tasks so that both get a chance to manage and run the household successfully.

13) Parenting is a wonderful experience. Share your views and raise your kids together.

14) Learn to bring the passion back if you find a slump in it.

15) Don’t get tempted with one night stand. Remember your marriage vows and what he/she means to you before you give it all up just for adventure or a wager.

16) If you are bored with your partner, it usually covers up some form of anger. It is important that you find out the cause of it.

17) Always be positive and that rubs off on the family members. If he/she is feeling low, give him/her space before hovering over them with questions.

18) Avoid arguments. Don’t be harsh and say hurtful things which will haunt you later.

19) Being perfect all the time is not always possible. Make up for the time you have been nasty by commenting something sweet or hugging him/her.

20) Live in harmony by discussing your likes, desires and goals in life. In this way, achieving them together cements the relationship better.

21) Accept one another and don’t be bitter if he/she has a trait that you dislike. Learn to work around it.

22) Forgiveness is essential in a relationship. But if you find that you really cannot forgive a person then it is best that you move on and find someone else. Being resentful for the rest of your life is not good for the heart and soul.

23) It is important that you realize that the two of you will change and discover yourself as the years go by. You may think that you know him now but later he may not be the same person. So make it a point to find out if neither of you have changed your mind.

24) If the relationship is making you miserable like physical and emotional abuse. Then it is best that you break it off.

25) Seeking advice from counselors doesn’t always mean failure. Professionals know how to manage relationships and provide insights that you may have not considered before.

Every effort that is put in a relationship is never a loss. You will always reap its benefits in some form or the other. If nothing else, you will understand yourself better.

things that you should never say to your girlfriend

There are certain things that you should never say to your girlfriend. Unless of course if your girl is a mind reader. Among the long list of things here are the top ten.

1) “She’s So Hot”- No matter how hot the girl walking in front of you, never say this aloud. It is natural to look but don’t gawk and drool. Even if your girlfriend comments on that girl’s look, don’t feel that is it your duty to partake in the comment. She may know that you do look at girls but don’t make it so obvious about how you feel inside when you stare at them.

2) “My Ex Would Never Do This” – Never compare the old with the new. Your girlfriend believed you when you said that you have moved on so why bring the ex back. Making statements like this will only start an argument and rest assured your girl will be fretting and fuming. But can anyone really blame her.

3) “You friend is so stupid” – Name calling your girlfriend’s friends will not get you anywhere. If you want to keep things in a good way, respect her the way she respects you. Sometimes keeping mum about friends is a good thing even if you really know that the friend is taking advantage then maybe you can take your girl aside and explain things with examples, rather than just blame and pointing fingers.

4) “Why do you love me? I am not good enough for you”- Girls like men with confidence. If you make statements like this then it will be a total turn off. Even if you don’t feel so, acting like it will make you more the man she wants you to be. She will feed your ego and breed real confidence that ultimately ends with you becoming a better person.

5) “If you really loved me you would…” – Putting conditions on her love for you is really very low. Smart guys don’t stoop this low. Be a man and ask her straight. That will get you a lot closer to what you want than trying such pathetic statements.

6) “You are so like your mother” – That is a good thing isn’t it? Well not always. Women do fear at times turning into their mothers. So saying this is not really good. You don’t know what the outcome will become.

7) “I’m not in the mood” – Women can use just about any excuse to put off sex. But if a guy says that he is too tired or just not up for a go, it rattles the very foundation of the relationship. Women think men are sexual deviants with a voracious appetite and your refusing it means something is definitely wrong. She thinks that she is no longer your sex kitten and you definitely are seeing someone else.

8) “I don’t like the outfit you are wearing” – If she is wearing it, she happened to like it enough to spend on it. Making statements like this not only brings her taste into question but it also leaves you looking like a backward, silly man. If you find her outfit too revealing for your taste, you can always explain how you feel and what you think will look good on her. You can take her shopping and show her the clothes you like which you think will compliment her.

9) “What have you done to your hair? It’s awful” – Women like experimenting with their looks and sometimes they don’t turn out as they wanted to. Instead of vocalizing it and giving her funny looks, you can be nice to her. She could be upset too, seeing the end result. So consoling her will only make her love you more.

10) “Don’t get emotional now” – It doesn’t take much to get girls crying. So don’t snap at her when she is emotional or crying. It is best to explain things, help her wipe away her tears and give her a comforting hug.

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